Actions speak louder than words. “I, ____, take you, ____, as my legitimate husband (husband/wife), to have and keep, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part” are vows that seem invalid for many marriages. In the United States the divorce rate is 50%. The divorce decision creates many negative effects on children, friends and family. Today, society has created divorce as an open topic that allows viewers to think that giving up and not working it out is the right thing to do. The sad part is that this generation will barely have couples who report a marriage of 25+ years. What is divorce? Divorce is a process in which a marriage is dissolved. The couple's relationship is broken and so is the family that was created. What is included in the separation are friends, relatives and children. Sometimes a divorce can get very ugly due to the division of assets shared during the marriage. A lot of anger and bitterness can manifest when a divorce is created. We can blame the media for showing society that a wedding is nothing but a great positive thing, but the difficult and negative moments are often never shown. Marriage is a portrait, as a woman will meet the most wonderful loving male who is their Prince Charming who will get married and live happily ever after. We are brainwashed by movies and television shows about what a wedding should be like. A marriage is not easy. Marriage requires a lot of hard work and patience for a marriage to last a lifetime. The saying “It's not who you found, it's about learning to love the one who found you”. Humans must struggle to see how strong we are as individuals to... middle of paper... live thinking it's okay to be alone. The foundation is laid for a child to simply get up and walk away rather than face and solve the problem. A child will not be consistently disciplined due to disagreements between parents. It is definitely difficult for a child to have some consistency in his life. Divorce is something that needs to be thought through carefully. The consequences are greater than marriage. People will be hurt, lives will be affected, and items will be divided. Half the time many people regret their decisions and realize that their first marriage was the best of the four or five they experienced. We all need help and we can't do things alone as a team, we are stronger than an individual. Selfishness is an act that will not allow you to grow as an individual. To do this we must turn the M in me upside down into a W for us.