It was through these interactions with these people I can identify with that I began to learn not only to communicate but to communicate competently through the characteristic of appropriateness. While it's true that I'm quick to describe myself as low self-monitoring when it comes to social interaction, but when it comes to important matters, I've learned to put my high self-monitoring to use to help a friend in need. . In one case, I had a friend who had recently gone through a tough breakup with her ex-boyfriend. Generally, I'm known for being a more cynical type of joker, which, in any case, doesn't make me a very attractive candidate for venting problems either. However, I realize that my friend is suffering, and as my friend, I want to do everything I can to give her comfort. Putting my antics aside, I approached the situation with sincerity, empathized with her, and was careful in considering her feelings. Once she felt comfortable with the situation, she thanked me with a warm smile and from then on I could feel that the bond we have was strengthened thanks to my ability to communicate appropriately and adapt the my self-monitoring to fit the mold that the situation needed