Pauline's mannerisms correctly show how far the idea of ​​grief is from its true definition in her daily life. Most of the time the words pain or suffering are used directly by Pauline in relation to phenomena that are not considered truly painful. Pauline's use of words is almost strictly intended to align pain with uncomfortable topics or feelings. This is best embodied by the quote: “…in fact, as you know, I always take particular care to avoid hearing anything painful or offensive.” During which, Pauline is trying to convince Dexter not to file a lawsuit against his current healer. Pauline is expressing her disgust at involving herself in situations that are less than ideal, implying that going to him is an extremely painful thing for her to do. Pauline's ability to relate so closely to an issue that most would consider no more than inconvenient shows that Pauline has become so removed from pain that she can no longer familiarize herself with it unless it is caused by trivial matters. This idea is further strengthened by Pauline's belief that suffering can be created. This response, which emerges during her and Nona's discussion about Mrs. Bruss and her cancer, describes the belief that pain can be rejected and, in fact, should be. Pauline's avoidance of pain and suffering occurred