But it is a desperation (again following Kierkegaard) that neither screams nor screams. People continue to live as if they were still in immediate contact with this living center. any other loss, such as that of a job or a leg, causes much more concern. This statement by Kierkegaard coincides with clinical observation. Apart from the marked pathological conditions mentioned above, his loss does not strike the eye directly and forcefully... And in his imagination he is different - so different, in fact, that his true self fades and grows even paler. .. instead of making his own efforts, for example, regarding human relationships, the neurotic insists that others adapt to him... Instead of making his own decisions, he insists that others are responsible for him. Therefore his constructive energies remain unused and he is in fact less and less decisive for himself